How to tell if she’s faking her orgasm

How to tell if she’s faking her orgasm

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“IS THERE A WAY TO TELL IF MY GIRLFRIEND IS FAKING HER ORGASMS?”
-MARK
 P., Austin, TX

My gut response is, if you have to ask, she may be faking. I don’t know anyone who fakes orgasms—but then, I’m a New Yorker, and we’re a pretty direct breed!

But according to sex expert Tammy Nelson, M.D., 70–80% of women do fake orgasms (though how could anyone conduct an accurate study if the control group is composed of orgasm-faking liars?!). Anyway, apparently you have a right to be concerned. So many women fake it, says Nelson, “because they’re afraid or don’t know how to tell their partners what they need to achieve a real orgasm. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation for anywhere from seven to 45 minutes, and unless she gives you hints—sighs, moans, ‘Ooh, yes!’—you won’t know if you’re even in the ballpark.”